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Neutrol advice needed.
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Hi guys,
I realise many of you may cringe after reading this, but any honest advice would be greatly appreciated. I post this here because none of you know me in person(bar eshortie and id appreciate it if you would keep this to yourself Evan, thanks).
This is a question of relationship advice.
I think I’m falling out of love.
I love my girlfriend, but Im not happy with us anymore. I dont feel the same way I used to about us. Im starting to feel trapped and freaked out because Im only 19 and Ive been with the same girl for 3 years. I feel like I need to end it because Im not as happy as I was.
Am I crazy? Or am I doing the right thing? And if so, how the hell do I end it?
I know you may think this is a stupid place to post this, but I really need help from people who aren’t my direct friends. I jut need honest advice and I trust all of you.
And for those of you who may know me, I appreciate your discretion.
Thanks.
Found this in an advice column:
Dear Walter:I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn’t gone more than a few hundred yards down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband’s help.
When I got home I couldn’t believe my eyes. He was parading in front of the wardrobe mirror dressed in my underwear and high-heel shoes and he was wearing my make-up.
I am 32, my husband is 34 and we have been married for twelve years. When I confronted him, he tried to make out that he had dressed in my lingerie because he couldn’t find his own underwear. But when I asked him about the make-up, he broke down and admitted that he’d been wearing my clothes for six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him.He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. I don’t feel I can get through to him anymore. Can you please help?
Sincerely,
Mrs. Sheila LuskDear Sheila:
A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the jubilee clips holding the vacuum pipes onto the inlet manifold. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.
I hope this helps.Walter
Sorry, couldn’t help myself. Not meaning to be a meddler in your relationship but I find its always best to talk things out with your girlfriend. No always the easiest route (and I can imagine quite a few boxes of tissues for this) but it will be better to b hnest with her in te long run, especially if you’s end up just haivng a bit of a break from each other.
Brian
You are too young to be in a long-term relationship!
Split up (pleasantly) with your girlfriend, stay on good terms with her, and get out there and see the world (I don’t mean travel necessarily).
Experience as much of life as you can in the next few years, because responsibilities will catch you up soon enough, and you won’t be ready for them
if you havn’t seen some of life first!8)
To be fair irishagua, do did make me laugh so Ill leave ya off with that one. Haha.
I hope you didn’t go overboard with the Valetine’s Day gifts.
Only YOU can answer it.
hey, the same thing happened to me, oddly enough. only the other day. my boyfriend decided that he “no longer felt the same about me as he always used to”
It hurt like hell. I cried, a lot. But, at the end of the day, I’m not mad at him. I always told him I’d rather have an honest boyfriend than a liar, and I meant it.
To think that it could have gone on, and I could have spent a long time giving my love to someone who plainly didnt want to be with me…I’m glad it ended the way it did.I was angry and hurt and upset when he told me, but it didn’t take me long to see that he had done the right thing. I’ve just met him for coffee today, and thing is…it was just like we were still the best of friends.
It doesnt have to be a bad ending. But just, be honest with her. And once you’ve done that, understand that no matter how she reacts, you really havent DONE anything wrong…
plainoldme wrote:
hey, the same thing happened to me, oddly enough. only the other day. my boyfriend decided that he “no longer felt the same about me as he always used to”
It hurt like hell. I cried, a lot. But, at the end of the day, I’m not mad at him. I always told him I’d rather have an honest boyfriend than a liar, and I meant it.
To think that it could have gone on, and I could have spent a long time giving my love to someone who plainly didnt want to be with me…I’m glad it ended the way it did.I was angry and hurt and upset when he told me, but it didn’t take me long to see that he had done the right thing. I’ve just met him for coffee today, and thing is…it was just like we were still the best of friends.
It doesnt have to be a bad ending. But just, be honest with her. And once you’ve done that, understand that no matter how she reacts, you really havent DONE anything wrong…
Fair Play Meghan, what a mature attitude! 8)
kenh wrote:
plainoldme wrote:
hey, the same thing happened to me, oddly enough. only the other day. my boyfriend decided that he “no longer felt the same about me as he always used to”
It hurt like hell. I cried, a lot. But, at the end of the day, I’m not mad at him. I always told him I’d rather have an honest boyfriend than a liar, and I meant it.
To think that it could have gone on, and I could have spent a long time giving my love to someone who plainly didnt want to be with me…I’m glad it ended the way it did.I was angry and hurt and upset when he told me, but it didn’t take me long to see that he had done the right thing. I’ve just met him for coffee today, and thing is…it was just like we were still the best of friends.
It doesnt have to be a bad ending. But just, be honest with her. And once you’ve done that, understand that no matter how she reacts, you really havent DONE anything wrong…
Fair Play Meghan, what a mature attitude! 8)
Cheers dude. I appreciate that. Little peoples like being called mature now and again! :P
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Cheers mate. Nice approach.
Lads I just wanna say thanks to the lot of ye. You have all been so helpful.
Hah, I’d like to add my name to the list of the fallen out of love, except I won’t see my girlfriend till the weekend and I have to break it to her then.
There’s obviously something about this time of the year :lol:I’ve decided to blame commercialism. more specifically, Valentines Day.
It’s just so….ick. It’s be nicer to have the romantic gestures whenever the fancy takes you, rather than on this specific day where you HAVE to do it because everyones else does and you’d look bad if you didn’t!
What happened to spontaneity?!However, a) It means that you can get away with forgetting…
and b) I’m really only blaming it on that so we can get out of taking the blame ourselves.Brains AND beauty, eh? 8)
Hard to give advice on something like this and not come across all cheesy, but I would say just be honest with her, chances are she might be feeling the same. If you stay in a relationship where your not happy you will just end up really disliking each other.
Just my 2p’s worth.
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