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Refused wedding
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Just a question for u guys and gals is there anyone out there that has ever refused to do a wedding , on your gut feelings that something just dosnt feel right about the couple….
Never been asked to do one, so have never refused.
If I’m ever asked, I’ll refuse.
I’ve not refused point blank, yet. But there are tell tale signs that ‘warn’ you off certain people – depending on the type of clients you want. For example somebody who hates having their picture taken etc etc, I wouldn’t take on as a client, as I need interaction with my clients to deliver the best images I can get.
I can’t afford to refuse weddings at this stage, but there have been a couple of times where when talking to the couple I wasn’t pushed on doing their photos due to various issues – extravagant demands, queries on prices, and not really hitting it off etc….
Strangely enough, one wedding couple I wasn’t pushed on (and they seemed disinterested) booked me. Throughout the day it was hard working with them, and even when I finalised the album, which I was happy with, they still seemed completely underwhelmed. Imagine my surprise when they sent me a lovely testimonial, which is now on my site, telling me how much they liked the album and they would recommend me to anyone they knew.
This taught me a lesson and I don’t think I will ever refuse a wedding unless I have some major issues with what they are looking for and / or their behaviour & attitude during our meetings.
Rgds
Kevin
I regularly turn down weddings, way too much hassle, very little financial return for the time put into them. Weddings are a big pain in the …neck!
Having said all that I do print up and put together albums for other photographers, happy to do this, because I am not the one dealing with the couple or worse still the brides Mother!!very little financial return for the time put into them
That’s a problem, but not one I have found, hence you should target clients who appreciate photography & are willing to pay a premium for it – if that is the market you are aiming for, not everyone can & will. Why should a dress or cake get more than the photographer, when he/she is creating something that’s going to last for years down the road…the cake is gone, dress is in box….
OK, I’ll do it, but on one condition …
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2006/03/14/wnaked14.xml
Hehehe!! ..what she saves on the wedding dress…she can pass on to you as well… :wink:
If I get the slighest “hint” or bad feeling about the couple then I do not take them on.
Life is way too short for the pain and grief caused by people who expect the earth.It can be like trying to come up with a “Hollywood Block Buster” from an unscripted, unrehearsed and badly planned show performed by new actors who’s only experience is watching other actors. All this being produced and directed by a bunch of people who may have never met before and certainly have never had a meeting to discuss each others contribution to the event, their needs to make the event a success and to co-ordinate a plan for the entire day.
The reason i asked was that i just turned one down the other half things i was mad, meet the couple went well agreed terms , next day signed contracts got deposit , great stuff good business laughed together told themwhat id do even threw in a free hour at home on morning of wedding ….. couple happy ….photographer happy
then i felt like i was being stalked the phones calls started can we do this can we have that extra can you give us an extra parents album for this price can we change everything around that we basically agreed in our first metting.
i was calm told them that this is why we had our first meeting and we really should have discused all these things then but being professional sorted it out , threw in free photos for the other parents album they where happy again sorted ……
No after five more phone calls wanting more changes
now reaching about 20 intotal after we had signed the contracts i finally got fed up and gave them back their deposit am i mad really had a bad feeling about them in the end it was a relief to get them away from me I was just glad that i did not have a rabbit and a big pot ….what a long 2 days………
I don’t have any experience of that kind of thing, but from reading your story, I’d say you were actually very generous in returning their deposit and would have been well within your rights to say, this is the contract you signed, this is what I will be doing. If you want extras fine..they will cost extra.
Sounds to me like they were trying to make a monkey out of you.
BM wrote:
OK, I’ll do it, but on one condition …
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2006/03/14/wnaked14.xml
Did anyone else notice that the last part of the URL is a letter swap from a very naughty word in the past tense?
GCP wrote:
If I get the slighest “hint” or bad feeling about the couple then I do not take them on.
Life is way too short for the pain and grief caused by people who expect the earth.It can be like trying to come up with a “Hollywood Block Buster” from an unscripted, unrehearsed and badly planned show performed by new actors who’s only experience is watching other actors. All this being produced and directed by a bunch of people who may have never met before and certainly have never had a meeting to discuss each others contribution to the event, their needs to make the event a success and to co-ordinate a plan for the entire day.
Gerry, at what point do you decide to take them or not? And what do you say when refusing?
pixelmadness wrote:
The reason i asked was that i just turned one down the other half things i was mad, meet the couple went well agreed terms , next day signed contracts got deposit , great stuff good business laughed together told themwhat id do even threw in a free hour at home on morning of wedding ….. couple happy ….photographer happy
then i felt like i was being stalked the phones calls started can we do this can we have that extra can you give us an extra parents album for this price can we change everything around that we basically agreed in our first metting.
i was calm told them that this is why we had our first meeting and we really should have discused all these things then but being professional sorted it out , threw in free photos for the other parents album they where happy again sorted ……
No after five more phone calls wanting more changes
now reaching about 20 intotal after we had signed the contracts i finally got fed up and gave them back their deposit am i mad really had a bad feeling about them in the end it was a relief to get them away from me I was just glad that i did not have a rabbit and a big pot ….what a long 2 days………
I think you were right. By the sound of it they never would have been happy with whatever you produced. On top of that they’re taking a lot more of your time for free with all these calls and changes.
Jody… initially I assumed that you were a female (however I do accept that Jody is both a male and a female name) but now I’m assuming you are a male because for a woman to point this out would be strange to say the least :lol:
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